Don't get me wrong...
I love my job and the fact that I get to make a living by exploring my sexuality in front of a camera. But there are definitely some things I wish I had known before I got started!
In Porn, It’s All About Who You Know (And Who You Don’t)
The porn industry is just as diverse as society itself. You’ll meet amazing people you can trust – and others you’re better off avoiding. Especially when you’re just starting out, it’s crucial to learn how to tell the difference.
One of the best ways to find your footing is by identifying your niche and connecting with other performers in that space – whether on social media or at industry events. Being part of a like-minded community helps you navigate the industry with more confidence. And if you’re considering working with someone new, don’t be afraid to ask around – getting references from others who have worked with them is a great way to ensure a safe experience.
Emily Adaire or Emily Adair? Typos that cost Revenue!
I spent a lot of time thinking about my stage name – focusing on how it sounded and how it ranked on Google. SEO (search engine optimization) is important because it ensures that when people type your name into Google, they actually land on your website – not someone else’s.
But one thing I didn’t consider enough was how easy it would be to remember and spell.
The number of times people have written “Emily Adair” instead of “Emily Adaire” in scene titles is ridiculous!
Another thing to think about is how your name reflects your brand. Sometimes, I wish I’d chosen a more German-sounding name – people keep assuming I’m French. Je ne parle même pas français! A name that hints at where you’re from or the vibe you’re going for can make a big difference.
The Rise and Fall of Studio Gigs
Landing your first studio gig feels like you’ve made it – and it is an amazing experience! But remember, studios constantly search for the “next big thing.” After an initial wave of bookings, they might stop calling once they realize you’re not the unicorn they were looking for.
It’s tough not to let that affect your self-esteem – or your finances, if you rely too much on studio work. I’m incredibly grateful for the visibility my early studio shoots gave me, but I wasn’t prepared for how quickly that momentum could fade.
That’s why it’s crucial not to depend on studios alone. Instead, use them strategically: build your fan base, earn short-term cash to invest in your own equipment, and learn how to produce high-quality content. The key is to focus on building your own brand – not just someone else’s.
Paperwork Isn’t Sexy, But It’s Essential
I get it. No one likes reading and signing paperwork. But trust me, you have to be careful about getting all the necessary documents from your co-performers. Without proper paperwork, your video files are either worthless or, worse, a potential legal nightmare.
When I first started filming with other performers, I didn’t take paperwork as seriously as I should have. “Just a quick model release and a photo of their ID – easy, right?” Well, nope. I can’t legally publish any of those scenes.
Platforms have cracked down on non-consensual material (and rightfully so). That means, as a responsible performer, you need to cover yourself. At a bare minimum, you need:
- A signed model release (which works for the platform you’re publishing on) and, depending on your location, a 2257-form.
- Clear photos of their ID (front and back)
- An “ID shot” (a photo of the performer holding their ID next to their face)
For extra security, consider doing a video interview before and after the scene to confirm that everyone understands what they’re agreeing to.
And even if platforms like OnlyFans allow you to ‘tag’ your co-performers, this is NOT a substitute for legally binding paperwork!
Disclaimer: This is not legal advice. Please consult a lawyer for any legal questions you may have.
Don’t Put All Your Dildos in One Basket: The Art of Diversification
When I first started doing porn, I thought: “Okay, I just need to film, edit, and upload my videos to Pornhub, and I’m set, right?!”
Back in 2020, Pornhub still had a Viewshare system, where creators earned money from premium users’ subscription fees – kind of like how musicians get paid on Spotify. For a few months, I made decent money from it.
Then, Pornhub got caught up in the War on Porn. Overnight, my earnings disappeared.
The adult industry is constantly shifting.
Platforms change their revenue models, get sanctioned by right-wing groups, or suddenly purge adult content. If you rely on just one platform, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
That’s why diversification is key. Don’t put all your trust in one site! Use:
- Tube sites (like XHamster or XVideos) for ad revenue
- Clip stores (like Clips4Sale or ManyVids) to sell individual videos
- Fan platforms (like OnlyFans, Sheer, Faphouse, Fansly) for monthly subscriptions
The more revenue streams you have, the safer your income will be.
Make Your Own Rules - Your Career, Your Choice
Starting out in porn, it feels like you need to do everything – webcam shows, full-length videos, social media, custom content. It’s easy to feel pressured to “check all the boxes” because that’s what others say works.
At first, I tried to do it all – even though I enjoyed filming full-length videos way more than webcam shows or customs. But forcing myself to do things I didn’t love drained my energy – and my passion.
There are performers who only do cam shows. Others post sexy pics for their OnlyFans subscribers. And then there are people like me, who thrive on making full-length videos. For every niche, there’s an audience.
And the same applies to the kind of content you create. If you push yourself to perform acts you don’t actually enjoy just because they’re popular, you’ll burn out fast.
The key to longevity? Do what excites you.
Last but Not Least...
I’ve been in porn for about five years now, and honestly? I’m still figuring things out. But I’ve already seen many performers come and go – often because they made the same mistakes I did when I started.
I hope this guide helps you avoid some common pitfalls. But most importantly: Have fun.
Yes, porn can be stressful, and yes, it’s a full-time job. But always remember why you chose this path over something more traditional. If you keep that in mind, you’ll ride out the tough moments with the same excitement you had when you first started.
In the end, don’t lose sight of your joy. Keep it front and center.
